I saw a guy that I used to work with at our gym the other day and he sat down next to me and started asking me, "So are you done yet?" When I laughed and sort of gave him a non reply, he started going into the whole, "Wow, three kids. Sure you can handle it?" Diatribe so many people feel the need to give us these days. Well, dang people. If we didn't think we could handle it we wouldn't have decided to have another one. And whether or not we can handle it, or should handle it, or how many kids I am going to have or not have and if they are going to public, private or homeschool is not your business and really isn't open for discussion, thankyouverymuch. I don't know what it is about the third kid that makes people feel the need to 1)Talk to you like you are stupid and clearly didn't think things through before deciding to have another child and 2)Treat you like a martyr, because clearly only a martyr would have three children.
When I said, "Oh I'm not really worried about having a big family, I came from a big family", he reminds me that coming from a big family and raising one of your own are two very different things. Yes, I realize this. Funny how when you tell people you are having a third kid the first thing that pops into most peoples mouths is something along the lines of "But you already had a matching set, why would you want to mess that up?" or "Are you sure you can handle this?" and then a sheepish congratulations follows, but it has already been spoiled by the clear thoughts of this woman is crazy.
Perhaps this is the type of stuff that all people hear, perhaps it is just me. A couple other friends of mine who are expecting a third and fourth say they aren't getting quite as much flack as I am. One has two boys, so people are like "Oh cool, trying for a girl?" and the other who has three now people say, "Oh good, you are making it even now. " Yes because trying for that girl or evening up the playing field is so much more noble than ruining a matching boy-girl set.
Oh well since I ruined my children's chance at happiness, I'll have to make sure my children take good notes so they'll have their stories right when they tell their therapists how awful it was to be one of three*.
*We do reserve the right to decide to have more children, and if we do, please don't ask us "Are you done now?"